2018 Update
Font Awesome 5 now features light, regular and solid variants. The icon featured in this question has the following style under the different variants:

A modern answer to this question would be that different variants of the icon can be used to make the icon appear bolder or lighter. The only downside is that if you're already using solid you will have to fall back to the original answers here to make those bolder, and likewise if you're using light you'd have to do the same to make those lighter.
Font Awesome's How To Use documentation walks through how to use these variants.
Original Answer
Font Awesome makes use of the Private Use region of Unicode. For example, this .icon-remove
you're using is added in using the ::before
pseudo-selector, setting its content to \f00d (
):
.icon-remove:before {
content: "\f00d";
}
Font Awesome does only come with one font-weight variant, however browsers will render this as they would render any font with only one variant. If you look closely, the normal
font-weight isn't as bold as the bold
font-weight. Unfortunately a normal font weight isn't what you're after.
What you can do however is change its colour to something less dark and reduce its font size to make it stand out a bit less. From your image, the "tags" text appears much lighter than the icon, so I'd suggest using something like:
.tag .icon-remove {
color:#888;
font-size:14px;
}
Here's a JSFiddle example, and here is further proof that this is definitely a font.
content: "×";
with verdana font for example – Taras