So I'm convinced that this is probably an easy answer and I'm just not seeing it, but after 20 google searches and 3 days of trying to figure it out on my own, I surrender. The xaml I'm using is below. What I need is for the two textboxes to fill all remaining space and to be equally sized. I've tried StackPanel, DockPanel, Grid (as it is below), and even nesting each of these and nesting a UniformGrid. Nothing seems to work, I just get 2 textboxes with whatever height I specify for MinHeight. Changing the Grid.Row setting from Auto to * just results in the TextBoxes centering themselves and moving as the window shrinks and grows.
<TabItem Header="Notes" Name="notesTab">
<Grid>
<Grid.ColumnDefinitions>
<ColumnDefinition Width="*"/>
<ColumnDefinition Width="Auto"/>
</Grid.ColumnDefinitions>
<Grid.RowDefinitions>
<RowDefinition Height="Auto"/>
<RowDefinition Height="Auto"/>
<RowDefinition Height="Auto"/>
<RowDefinition Height="23"/>
<RowDefinition Height="Auto"/>
</Grid.RowDefinitions>
<Label Content="Select Contact:" Height="28" Grid.Row="0" Grid.Column="0" HorizontalAlignment="Right" FontStyle="Italic" FontWeight="Bold"></Label>
<ComboBox Grid.Column="1" Grid.Row="0" Height="23" HorizontalAlignment="Right" Width="150" ItemsSource="{Binding Source={StaticResource contactList}}" DataContext="{Binding Source={StaticResource contactList}}" Name="contactSelectionBox"></ComboBox>
<WrapPanel Grid.Row="1" Height="Auto" Grid.ColumnSpan="2" Margin="5">
<WrapPanel.Width>
<Binding ElementName="callNotes" Path="ActualWidth" />
</WrapPanel.Width>
<Label Content="TAD" Width="Auto" Name="tadShortcut" MouseLeftButtonDown="tadShortcut_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="VI" Width="Auto" Name="verifyInfoShortcut" MouseLeftButtonDown="verifyInfoShortcut_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="Not there" Width="Auto" Name="uipShortcut" MouseLeftButtonDown="uipShortcut_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="WUSP" Width="Auto" Name="wuspShortcut" MouseLeftButtonDown="wuspShortcut_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="FNYD" Width="Auto" Name="fnydShortcut" MouseLeftButtonDown="fnydShortcut_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="Not Employed" Width="Auto" Name="notEmployedShortcut" MouseLeftButtonDown="notEmployedShortcut_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="Message" Width="Auto" Name="messageShortcut" MouseLeftButtonDown="messageShortcut_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="Late Fees" Width="Auto" Name="lateFeesShortcut" MouseLeftButtonDown="lateFeesShortcut_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="Payoff" Width="Auto" Name="payoffReqShortcut" MouseLeftButtonDown="payoffReqShortcut_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="No Commit" Width="Auto" Name="noCommit" MouseLeftButtonDown="noCommit_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="12/12" Width="Auto" Name="twelve12" MouseLeftButtonDown="twelve12_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="No ID" Width="Auto" Name="vmNoID" MouseLeftButtonDown="vmNoID_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="Wrong #" Width="Auto" Name="wrongNumber" MouseLeftButtonDown="wrongNumber_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="Day Off" Width="Auto" Name="dayOff" MouseLeftButtonDown="dayOff_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="FPD" Width="Auto" Name="firstPaymentDefault" MouseLeftButtonDown="firstPaymentDefault_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="Repo Pmnt" Width="Auto" Name="repoPayment" MouseLeftButtonDown="repoPayment_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="CS Xfer" Width="Auto" Name="custServ" MouseLeftButtonDown="custServ_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
<Label Content="Spanish" Width="Auto" Name="spanish" MouseLeftButtonDown="spanish_MouseLeftButtonDown" MouseEnter="notesLabel_MouseEnter" MouseLeave="notesLabel_MouseLeave" />
</WrapPanel>
<MyNamespace:WatermarkTextBox Grid.Row="2" Grid.ColumnSpan="2" Style="{StaticResource TextBox Style}" MinHeight="98" Margin="15,5,15,5" HorizontalAlignment="Stretch" VerticalAlignment="Stretch" AcceptsReturn="True" TextWrapping="Wrap" VerticalScrollBarVisibility="Auto" Name="callTwoNotes" TextChanged="callTwoNotes_TextChanged" FontWeight="Bold" IsEnabled="False" ClipToBounds="False"></MyNamespace:WatermarkTextBox>
<Button Grid.Row="3" Grid.ColumnSpan="2" Height="23" Name="flipFlopButton" VerticalAlignment="Center" Width="75" Click="flipFlopButton_Click">
<Image Source="Images/FlipFlop.gif" />
</Button>
<MyNamespace:WatermarkTextBox Grid.Row="4" Grid.ColumnSpan="2" Style="{StaticResource TextBox Style}" MinHeight="98" Margin="15,5,15,5" HorizontalAlignment="Stretch" VerticalAlignment="Stretch" AcceptsReturn="True" TextWrapping="Wrap" VerticalScrollBarVisibility="Auto" Name="callNotes" TextChanged="callNotes_TextChanged" FontWeight="Bold"></MyNamespace:WatermarkTextBox>
</Grid>
</TabItem>
The xaml for the style on the TextBoxes is below, just for completeness.
<Style x:Key="TextBox Style" TargetType="{x:Type MyNamespace:WatermarkTextBox}">
<Setter Property="CharacterCasing" Value="Upper" />
<Setter Property="HorizontalAlignment" Value="Left" />
<Setter Property="VerticalAlignment" Value="Top" />
<Setter Property="Height" Value="23" />
<Setter Property="Width" Value="Auto" />
<Setter Property="SelectAllOnGotFocus" Value="True" />
</Style>