cry for help here... need help with actual memory limits for PHP and Wordpress - am I using too much? My Wordpress is so slow I am about to give up...
I know how to increase php and Wordpress memory so that's not the topic but I need help with actual memory limits - I tried many variations and my Wordpress site at first runs quickly but after few hours it just barely loading... I tried to bump up to a larger instance in Lightsail (4 times more memory, 4x cpu) - that didn't make any difference and my smaller instance seem to run faster, something tells me I am having memory allocation issues...
here's my settings : My Setup: Lightsail 512M, Aurora RDS, PHP 7.2.13, Apache, WordPress 5.2.
Lightsail instance comes with 512M of memory so I allocated it as follows:
PHP: 512M - am I crazy allocating all server memory to PHP, should I leave some for XYZ, if so for what?
Wordpress Max (admin) 256M - good or too much?
Wordpress Front end: 128M - my best guess this is ok.
I have about 85 plugins that I tried to deactivate/activate and of course deactivating all of them solves the problem but wonder what else I can/should do to speed my site up.
Any help is appreciated!