Trying to do a two way I don't think is going to work in the way you are trying so I am not surprised the examples you found were for one-way. I am open to being corrected.
You could hack around it for example using two form control listboxes linked to the same cell so a selection in one updates the other.
Then because an item might be out of view listbox underneath have two cells which use the linked cell to index back into the source lists.
In the example above, there are two list boxes from form controls in developer tab (customize ribbon > add developer tab.
Developer tab form control - 2nd from the right
You add two of these in to the sheet.
Right click format control on each one
Set the input range to the range containing your list of values for that listbox and set the linked cell e.g. G1
Ensure that whilst you select different input ranges for each list box, they should have the same linked cell e.g. G1.
Underneath the listboxes put a formula which uses the linked cell G1 to index back into the source lists for each listbox so you can retrieve the selected value and have it visible, in case not visible within listbox.
Example testing: