You can use the same technique as setting a validator dynamically for a FormControl in a reactive form, but using the NgForm directive. How come? What angular actually does with the NgForm directive it creates FormControl instances registered to the name you assign in your form.
So what you can do, is import NgForm, Validators and ViewChild to reference your form and be able to use it in your component. As a side note, I see that your ngModel variable is the same as the name attribute. That won't work, they need to be unique.
So do the following:
<form #f="ngForm">
<input [(ngModel)]="coumnNameModel" name="coumnName" #coumnName="ngModel">
</form>
and in your component, import NgForm and ViewChild and then use setValidators() and set whatever validators you want, then call updateValueAndValidity():
@ViewChild('f') myForm: NgForm;
// when you want to set required validator:
setRequired() {
this.myForm.form.get('coumnName').setValidators([Validators.required])
this.myForm.form.get('coumnName').updateValueAndValidity();
}