I've been considering moving some databases from self-hosted database instances (e.g. MySQL or PostgreSQL on Linux, either bare-metal or within AWS itself) into Amazon RDS, but it's unclear to me how everything will behave once I've created the database and it's time for maintenance to begin.
For example, I have to choose the type of instance(s) that will be used for the database, which I guess means how responsive everything will be, and there is an option for multi-AZ deployments, but it's not clear how many of those types of instances I'm actually configuring. (Presumably, multi-AZ deployment requires at least two instances).
There are options for Failover, which leads me to believe that I can rely on the service to stay up if there are problems with an instance, but then there is also a section for selecting maintenance windows for automated upgrades, which I find confusing. If I were administering e.g. a two-instance MySQL setup, I'd upgrade one instance and then the other to avoid any downtime. Is that not how RDS behaves?
RDS advertises support for automatic "minor version upgrades" (yes, please), but doesn't say anything about OS upgrades. Presumably, the db engine will be running on Amazon Linux or something similar, and will periodically require updates to those packages. Does that all happen automatically, or do I need to manually perform those upgrades, etc.?
The whole point of using something like RDS is that the service should become something I no longer have to worry about: I don't have to deal with package maintenance, upgrades, failover, or unexpected downtime (as long as I pay enough, of course). But all of the options for the RDS instance are making me skeptical of the advantages provided by RDS over just running everything myself.
Can anyone with experience with AWS RDS comment on their experiences with maintenance, upgrades, and failover?