change the mesh representation to point table and triangle faces table. STL demands that all triangles are joined in their vertexes so no cutting of edges which means neighboring triangle always share one complete edge.
double pnt[points][3];
int tri[triangles][3];
The pnt should be list of all distinct points (index sort it to improve speed for high point count). The tri should contain 3 indexes of points used in triangle. Sort them (asc or desc) to improve match speed.
Now if any triangle tri[i] shares the same edge like tri[j] then those two are neighboring triangles.
if ((tri[i][0]==tri[j][0])&&(tri[i][1]==tri[j][1])
||(tri[i][0]==tri[j][1])&&(tri[i][1]==tri[j][2])) triangles i,j are neighbors
Add all combinations ...
If you need just neighboring points then find all triangles containing that points and all the other points used in those triangles are neighbors
To load STL to such structure do this:
clear pnt[],tri[] lists/tables
process each triangle of STL
for each point of triangle
look if it is in pnt[] if yes use its index for new triangle. if not add new point to pnt and use its index for new triangle. When all 3 points done add new triangle to tri.
Improving pnt[] performance
Add index sort for pnt[] sorted by any coordinate for example x and improve performance of checking if point is already present in pnt.
So while adding (xi,yi,zi) into pnt[] find index of point that have the biggest x which is xi>=pnt[i0][0] via binary search and then scan all points in pnt until x crosses xi so xi<pnt[i1][0] this way you do not need to check all points.
If this is too slow (usually if number of points is bigger then 40000) you can improve performance more by segment index sorting (dividing index sort into segment pages of finite size like 8192 points)
Improving tri[] performance
You can also sort the tri[] by tri[i][0] so you can use binary search similarly to pnt[].