I'm trying to figure out why NHibernate handles one-to-many cascading (using cascade=all-delete-orphan) the way it does. I ran into the same issue as this guy:
Forcing NHibernate to cascade delete before inserts
As far as I can tell NHibernate always performs inserts first, then updates, then deletes. There may be a very good reason for this, but I can't for the life of me figure out what that reason is. I'm hoping that a better understanding of this will help me come up with a solution that I don't hate :)
Are there any good theories on this behavior? In what scenario would deleting orphans first not work? Do all ORMs work this way?