Your'e asking quite a bit here, and i'm not sure I completely understand your intention, so I hope I got this right. Your'e asking if you can access the complete visual representation of each control and change it using xaml. The answer to that is yes, but you shouldn't.
I'll get to what I mean in a bit, but first I'd like to clarify some concepts, since i'm not sure you're using them correctly.
- XAML:
Xaml is the declarative markup representation of your views and nothing more. Xaml syntax directly corresponds to it's respective classes and their properties. Xaml maps tags to classes and attributes to properties. It's a small distinction, but it's important to think this way. Everything you can do in xaml you can also do in code (although it would often be much more work). Again: xaml refers to markup code only.
<ClassA PropertyA="Value">
<ClassA.PropertyB>
<ClassB />
</ClassA.PropertyB>
Default property value
</ClassA>
Logical tree:
The logical tree is the runtime representation of your xaml code. it consists (mostly) of the controls you set in your xaml files.
Visual tree:
The visual tree is the visual representation the logical tree. It contains much more since it contains the concrete visual representation of everything displayed in your view. Most of the logical tree can't be directly displayed. WPF uses Data and Control Templates together with Styles to determine exactly how each object is supposed to look. In case of data templates that can also mean simple data objects and not only WPF controls.
Now for your question: so can you access the concrete visual representation of each control?
Yes, but you'll have to use control templates to manipulate it's visuals. Also, control templates are usually applied to control types and not specific controls, so you'll have to deal with that as well.
And that's why you shouldn't access it. The xaml representation usually gives you all you need to modify your control, and even if you do use templates you shouldn't change every last piece of it. Templates are used to style a control, so only write enough to show it as you wish. There's no need specify everything.
However you can access the entire visual tree more easily using procedural code, if you use the VisualTreeHelper class (that's how snoop does it, by the way). Using it you can traverse the visual tree and access all it's classes and members. If you really want to access every single visual object you'll do it much more easily with the VisualTreeHelper.