Same in XE5. Plus extra traffic and all this client-server thing require >5 Mbit per second (!) to work normally. I am using only TFDConnection and TFDQuery. Specially for MySQL the speed is the same with Delphi components and with third-party driver (libmysql.dll). If you have no FireDAC you can replace TFDQuery with TSQLQuery. Here is a procedure how to fill a string grid:
procedure SelGrid(sql:ansiString;Q:TFDQuery;grid:TStringGrid);
var i: integer;
begin
Q.Close;
Q.SQL.Text:='';
Q.Open(sql);
grid.ColCount:=Q.FieldCount;
grid.RowCount:=1;
while not Q.Eof do begin
for i := 0 to grid.ColCount-1 do grid.Cells[i,grid.RowCount-1]:=Q.Fields.Fields[i].AsString;
grid.RowCount:=grid.RowCount+1;
Q.Next;
end;
Q.Close;
if grid.RowCount>1 then grid.RowCount:=grid.RowCount-1;
grid.Row:=0;
//AutoSizeGridColumns(grid,30,200);
end;
This is VCL string grid. Of course you muse deal with updates and so on, but you'll have no more performance problems.